Facebook Status Reflects Who We Are

Facebooking is fun! I spend most of my online social times on Facebook as it is currently the only platform where I can easily get in touch with most of my friends, acquaintances, blog readers as well as my customers who communicate with me through private messaging.

I am rather careful though, with the kind of status message I share on my pages.  For a start, I think people would generally respond to specific happy posts, the funny ones and sometimes the sad disappointing ones. However, if there are one too many repeated posts on the same negative feelings from the same person time and again, I will be sorely put off. Sorry, but its the truth.

It is one thing to share and update about our lives with friends on Facebook, but it is another when all one does is post up sorry, crabby moments every other hour. Though there are certainly no boundaries about sharing our pesky, malicious or peeved thoughts about an encounter we've had but surely we should know our limits?

Facebook is certainly not an open diary though there are times when I may share displeased thoughts but I think what makes a difference is the way we express ourselves and choice of words.

As much as I can, I will keep negative or angry feelings to myself. If I need to vent, I would usually share it with friends over a private chat, just to get it off my chest.

Rule of thumb : it's not nice to air your dirty laundry in public, especially if it concerns the family.

It just wouldn't do anyone any good and reflects poorly of oneself.

There is already too much gloom in this world. If we have to share a status on Facebook, surely we can post a happy and positive note for all to share the good vibes.

   

    Till the next post, have a blessed week!

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Changing Expectation to Appreciation

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Expectations. 

I have allowed this action to manifest in my mind each time things do not turn out well in my favor or others' favor. It is definitely a kind of self infliction to my soul.

I think it all began when I started my motherhood journey, circumstances "forced" me to be ultra independent - something that was never in my dictionary because I have been fortunate not to experience any form of lack in my life before we started a family of our own.

When I had my first child, I was expected to be "the greatest indispensable mother" overnight. In order to live up to my own personal expectations (oooh the pressure I give myself of those who are watching me), I felt it was necessary to sacrifice all my time to be deemed as "a good mother".  I didn't allow myself the room to make mistakes thus shouldered the blame for the slightest imperfection that I stumbled upon.  It got really crazy because the need for myself to be a perfect mom and having perfect kids became quite obsessive in the earlier years of my motherhood journey. I could hardly just let myself go and appreciate parenting.

So there began the manifestation of expectations of myself to be good wife, mother and daughter. Likewise, I expect quite a fair bit from my husband and children. It sometimes make me uptight in my train of thoughts and the way I react to certain situations. I wonder at times, if I am considered no fun to be with at all.

I know for sure that I cannot fulfill every single expectations that come my way.  I am learning to let some things go and trusting God for a lot of things now.

I am embarking on a journey to be grateful for who I am and what I have. To accept for things that happened, happened for a reason - it could be worst but its not. If something is not mine or meant-to-be to begin with, I should be contented with what I have than having desirous thoughts of what I could have.

I don't wish to be so hard on myself anymore. I want to be happy and live simply.  It is probably the best thing I can ever want to pursue in my life.

Till the next post, have a blessed week!

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